There is one thing in particular I’ve noticed over my years in this community, which I thought I would discuss this week. The views I express are my personal thoughts based on real conversations and meetings I have been apart of; these views don’t represent any organisations I am apart of or have been apart of.
There’s this fine line between small and big organisations/businesses asking for help and support to make their events more inclusive and safe for LGBTI people. More often than not though those organisations/business just do as little work as possible to make safe spaces for LGBTI young people, instead they use it as a platform to make them look better. So when you call them out they can say, “actually we’re doing this, but thanks everyone.”
They seem to think LGBTI organisations will do all this work for free, but then they expect the LGBTI organisations to pay money to “create a presence” at their event. This is money that these organisations just don’t have, especially for those organisations that are running on volunteer support.
They also think that out of 50 people speaking at their event that only one LGBTI speaker is totally fine, and that they can accurately speak for all the different letters in the acronym. Then when you call people out on this you’re the bad person. The common excuse of, “well there are lots of minorities and we can’t cater for them all” pops up a lot.
Organisations/businesses have this idea that we want the very best treatment for our LGBTI young people and that we are asking them to do some ridiculously crazy things, when actually what we want is young people to feel safe, included, and respected at your events.
One of the worst things is when you’re all ready to go support an organisation/business but the day before you get an email saying “oh actually don’t worry, we have a gay person who can do it instead.”
Everyone seems to think that it’s acceptable to ask LGBTI organisations to offer their services and time for free. Most times the LGBTI organisations would do something for free because it’s better to support then not to. But really these organisations barely have the funding to have a single staff member, let alone a team of volunteers behind them. The work these LGBTI organisations are doing can quite often be life saving, but everyone just looks over that and says thank for your time, here’s a box of chocolates.
Our voices, knowledge, and experiences are our personal treasures; they are the things we hold closest to us. They can also be some of the hardest things to share with others, but we do it anyway to make sure that young LGBTI people know they aren’t alone, and that there are people who care about them. Organisations/business need to start understanding that and respecting it. It’s not fair to expect these people to open themselves up so everyone can stare and say “well that was very fascinating”.