High school drop out?!

This morning on Facebook I got the notification to show me photos and posts I made 1 year ago 2 years ago or what not on this day. Low and behold Facebook reminded me, exactly 2 years ago today I left school early. Below is the photo I uploaded onto Facebook with a little witty status in true Bella form.

“Walking out of school for the last time and the only thing I can think of is how High School Musical gave me unrealistic expectations on what High school was going to be like”1557733_10204121716549435_6929510174195807375_n

I think it is really important to talk about what it means to leave school early and how it isn’t really the end of the world like everyone assumes. I left in year 13 and I had been wanting to leave for a good couple of months; my grades weren’t great and I just didn’t have a solid social group of friends, which I think is what really makes your last year. I knew that if I left I needed to be smart and proactive – I would need to have a plan and make sure I moved straight into a job. So I got a job at KFC and planned on saving to do a makeup course the next year. Of course my plans changed and I never did the make up course, but I did do a beautician course, which in hindsight I really didn’t want to do. I did it because I wanted to tell people I was actually doing something with my life.

Working at KFC isn’t the most glamorous job, and I know a lot of people looked down on me because I left school early to work at KFC (rude!) but for me, KFC was never my end goal it was just a start. It is also important to remember that even if I was still working at KFC today that it is totally fine, and a completely valid job. I never wanted to stay there though, I couldn’t handle the subtle judgment I got from so many people, including people in my family because I worked there.

Again in true Bella form I quit with a beautiful sympathy card which reads:

Dearest the team at KFC,

Thanks all so much for the great times over the last year and a half. Well as good as KFC gets. Catch you on the flip side.

Bella

PS: I quit, hope it was obvious.

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I am now an administrator at a great little company, with an awesome boss. I’m also on a couple of different boards and generally just doing my own thing. I don’t regret leaving high school early, and I don’t regret not going to university. I can still wait till I’m a little older and apply for special entrance if I wanted to go to Uni, but I don’t think I do. The point of this post is, if you aren’t enjoying school, then you can leave and still do great things. Everyone says stay in school and they make it sound like you will have a terrible life if you leave early, but I think it is more important to listen to yourself and figure out what is working for you. If school isn’t working then think about what it actually is you want to be doing.

I hope this helps some people if they are struggling at school, because I know school isn’t easy. Sometimes it isn’t even just the classes or the teachers but just the whole social aspect, having to see people everyday thing can be difficult for some.

Follow your dreams, believe in yourself and you can do anything.

Transgender day of visibility.

Today is Transgender day of visibility, which is nice thank you for that. I have a few issues with it though, which if you know me well enough you will know I always have issues. People will celebrate this day and act super supportive but in reality they aren’t actually doing anything to support the trans community, waving a flag once doesn’t make you supportive, it shows you accept the trans community.

We also need to remember the young people who don’t want to be visible? The young trans people who are struggling to find support in their homes, schools and even communities? There are trans kids who don’t feel safe anywhere, yet there is an expectation that they are going to stand out and proud for transgender day of visibility. Does this honestly sound like a good idea?

I don’t really know what you could do instead, because there is so much that should and could be done. Ask within your local community to see what they need at the time. Or if you have the opportunities to create positive visibility then go for it. But all I ask is remember that the trans community will still need help and visibility after transgender day of visibility.

Today I plan on buying some nice food and just spending a little bit of time to myself. I am super busy at the moment but I think the fact I have survived 8 and a half years is a pretty decent achievement, and one I should celebrate.

 

Have a delightful day friends, Kia Kaha (Stay Strong) xox

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My new Ted Baker Bag

Over the last few months I’ve been saving to buy a new handbag because my old one was just falling apart. I’ve always loved Ted Baker and have one of his make up bags, so it was a no brainer to aim for one of his bags. I had been researching online to get an idea for what style I liked and what would be practical for my life. I then worked out how much I wanted to spend and budgeted around that, buying nice things isn’t cheap but there isn’t much point in starving yourself for them either. Whilst I was in Auckland I popped into Smith and Caugheys. I found a few of the bags I’d seen online, I tried them out to see how they felt and to see how practical they were. None of them were exactly what I was after or on sale so I headed on down to the Ted Baker flagship store at Britomart. I’m so glad I did because the moment I walked in I saw the perfect bag for me, the Roselle Patent Crosshatch in Taupe.

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Exciting things are on their way!

Hey – It’s me.

I’m super excited to start talking about all the things I love and have a strong opinion on. Stay tuned for exciting things.

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Lots of love, Bella xox